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Do You Know How to Forgive?

Posted on: August 8th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
I forgive

I forgive you!

There are several ways to forgive. However, the the first thing to keep in mind is to be the type of person who doesn’t go through life looking for those who are doing you wrong. There are people who constantly walk around feeling they don’t get a fair shake and that they are always being cheated in some way. Frequently these are people who have been raised with a sense of entitlement and feel that everyone owes them something. They have an overactive feeling of being gyped. These people live with a curse so if that is you, an attitude change would be your first step. Don’t live looking for someone you need to forgive.

When you go through life with a smile and expect to be happy. Research shows that smiling makes you happy. When you’re happy, you smile, and what is totally cool is that the opposite is true. When you put your face in a smiling position, you get happy. Why is this? It is because your body and emotions are connected. Amazingly, it was recently revealed that when people have Botox shots to eliminate their frown lines, they become happier. Not just because they don’t have face lines, but because your emotions respond to your body language and facial expressions

So, how do you forgive? Not a person on earth is free from being hurt so every person is confronted with this problem.

First step: When someone has done you wrong, before you can forgive, you must stop reliving it and going over and over it, again and again, in your mind. As long as you do this you haven’t made up your mind to forgive.

Step two: Here is where you get to make a choice. How you forgive a person depends how the other person is responding to what they did to harm you.

Forgive & forget

Forgive & forget

If the person has given you a sincere apology and is truly sorry, You must TOTALLY FORGIVE the person. In fact you are obligated to do this. When you totally forgive someone, you restore the relationship the way it was before and everything is as it was between you. This is also appropriate to totally forgive when someone has done something accidentally and is truly sorry by taking responsibility for what they have done.

If the person has not said they are sorry, does not take responsibility for their actions or blames their actions on something you did, then you cannot trust them again. If this is the case and you want to maintain the relationship, then forgive them but realize that things aren’t the same as they were before because you have a little suspicion about trusting them. Still, you can forgive them while holding the suspicion and realizing that things aren’t the same as they were before. You are wiser now.

You may have the fantasy that you are getting back at the other person when you don’t forgive them, but you are only hurting yourself because all good things are attracted to you through love and high vibrations.

If the person isn’t sorry, you definitely don’t maintain the relationship but forgive the person and let it go because of what it is going to do to you if you don’t. You release it even though you realize they hurt you and that things will never be the same between you. You fully acknowledge they did were bad and that the slate is not wiped clean. This could be a situation where a child was abused by a parent.

So -you choose:

  • Forgive and forget-keeps the relationship
  • Forgive but not forget-keeps the relationship even though you are wiser
  • Forgive and release the relationship.

Now you have choices, and remember, forgiveness is a gift you GIVE YOURSELF.

You Must Give to Receive Money

Posted on: April 16th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen

 

You must give to receive

You must give to receive

It’s a law that you MUST give to receive. Many people don’t get it – they want to receive before they give.

Do this: hug yourself. Are you in a position to receive? No way! You are all closed up and only able to give to yourself. Now unfold your arms, open them, and extend them forward as if you are in the positive to give-and look, you are also in the exact right position to receive.

Many people don’t understand they must circulate money. When you give, you keep the energy of money flowing outward. Only when there is flow outward can there be a flow back to you.

How do you flow money unless you give it away?

  • Give when you pay your bills. As you pay with money, a check, a credit card, send the person or company blessings. Give them love along with the money.
  • It doesn’t matter how little you have, you always have something to give. Allow yourself to give  appreciation, gratitude, thankfulness for others. Give to others with the emotions and vibrations of generosity, love, and support. Give verbally and in writing. Give praise. When you say something good about a person or situation, you are telling the universe, “I want this!”
  • Give a ‘tithe’ to a church, charity, or someone in need. This is an ancient principle. The world ‘tithe’ means tenth. In ancient times people knew the number 10 was a magic number and they gave a tenth. By giving a tithe or a tenth of your income, you are acknowledging your Divine Source, the Source of all things you receive.
  • Give to yourself. You always want to give ten percent to yourself before you pay bills or any obligation.
  • Give thoughts, words and feelings of lavish abundance to everyone. Speak well of them and their money. Give energy to them of becoming prosperous. Magnetically charge them with abundance because what you put out comes back to you. This will keep you in the vibrational place of receiving everything you are asking for.

As you give, pay attention to how you feel. When you give, your thoughts and emotions become a vibrational match of what you are trying to bring into your life. You will never receive what you want if you are feeling the absence of it and worried that it won’t appear. Because if you are, it won’t appear.

You can consciously change your emotions whenever you want. Simply feel gratitude to get into a high emotion. Everyone has something to be grateful for. How do you make money? Imagine a Meter that would read your vibrations. If it were pointed at you, what money vibration do you think it would read?When you give with an open heart, what you give comes back multiplied.

Watch this video and learn more about giving:

Be Happy Anyway!

Posted on: November 7th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen

 

Keep your thoughts above the happy line

Being Happy is up to you!

Do you want to be happy? Sounds like a silly question, but not really.

Abraham Lincoln said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Believe it or not, many folks make up their minds not to be happy.

Why would anyone not want to feel happy? When people are unhappy, they have something to complain about. When they aren’t happy, they can be a victims and blame someone else for their problems. When people aren’t happy, it’s their way of opting out of being in charge of their own lives.

No one else is responsible for your life or for the way you feel. You are totally in control of whether your thoughts and feelings are happy or unhappy. Perhaps someone else did or said something that has triggered a negative emotional response in you. It’s up to you to choose whether to stay with that negative feeling or change it to a happy one.

If you choose not to be happy because of someone else, it’s pretty ridiculous. They probably said or did something only once, however when you replay it in your mind you let it hurt you over and over again. When you’re feeling sad or mad, remember you chose to react that way so you are responsible for how you are feeling. The only person who gets hurt by focusing on the negative is you.

Things and people do not make you happy or unhappy. You make yourself happy or unhappy. You have to decide to be happy no matter what happens. Things don’t have to be perfect for you to be happy. If you wait until things are perfect to be happy, you will never be happy because things will never stay perfect. Life is full of constant change.

If you find yourself not being happy, just say, “Oops,” and change your thoughts. Become happy by changing your thoughts to something that does make you happy. Choose something uplifting and you will instantly feel uplifted. Don’t be mad at your self for feeling negative because that is another reason you’ll have not to be happy. Set yourself up to be happy by deciding to make a sharp u turn in your emotions. You can go from down to up simply by putting a new picture in your mind – one that makes you happy. Anyone can do it. Anyone can choose to be happy. Once you’ve made the ‘happy-choice’, the rest is easy.

 

 


The Most Important Factor in Marriage

Posted on: November 5th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen

 

Gratitude is the number one thing that creates a happy marriage

Gratitude is the number one thing that creates a happy marriage

It may surprise you that gratitude is important in a successful marriage. In fact, gratitude is the most important factor to a satisfying, long-term marriage.

A 2005 study (Schramm, Marshal and Harris) found that higher satisfaction in marriage occurs when the parties actually express gratitude to their mate. Appreciation was listed as one of the most important factors to a satisfying long-term marriage.

Newlyweds also viewed partners who expressed gratitude in a more loving way.

The partners who expressed gratitude in their relationship regularly for 3 weeks actually saw their marriage become stronger.

How does gratitude affect a relationship? It was found in a study by Lambert and Fincham in 2011, that when you express appreciation for something about your partner, it gives your partner a more positive view of you. It also helps the marriage partners to feel more invested in a long term relationship, as well as both partners in the marriage being able to voice concerns in the relationship.

How can you express gratitude in your marriage?

  • Help your marriage by looking for things you like about your partner and then sharing it
  • Help your marriage by expressing gratitude in a way you wouldn’t normally do so, such as leaving a note
  • Help your marriage by doing little things that you normally wouldn’t, such as making something special that you know will be appreciated

Now you know the number one love secret to improve your marriage, get going on your new gratitude habit today. Create the best marriage you can have by incorporating tiny little things daily.

You Can’t be Happy With These 3 Cs

Posted on: November 1st, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Be happy without the 3 Cs

Be happy without the 3 Cs

Everyone wants to be happy but not everyone knows how to be happy. In order to be happy you must have a mindset that encourages happiness. To do this, you have to be a quitter. You must quite 3 things.  Being happy requires you to quit Criticizing, Controlling, and fear of Changing.

 When you criticize anyone or anything, you have determined what’s wrong with some one or something rather than what’s right. You are looking at the negative instead of the positive of a person or situation. Criticism of yourself is one of the worst things you can do. No one can be happy when they find fault with themselves. People who criticize aren’t happy because this habit brings lack, rather than prosperity,  into your life. In order to be happy, you have to kick out toxic thoughts.

To be happy, you must also quit exerting control over anyone or anything. When you try to control something, it actually controls you because of the effort it takes. The fact is, you can’t actually control anything, therefore being happy eludes you because even with all your controlling effort, things don’t always work out as you wish. Happy people are flexible, they let things flow, and take see opportunities in everything that happens. Controlling is a contracting energy, where as allowing is expanding energy.

Be happy for change

Be happy for change

You will only be happy when you recognize that change is a good thing. Change is happening constantly and change is progress. Happy people aren’t afraid of change. Happy people find change exciting, even though they know great changes are usually preceded by chaos. In the end, they know that the change is worth it. Happy people do not worry about or fear change; instead they anticipate it. Be happy about what is changing and you’ll find opportunities in it.

Happy people hang with other happy people because they also have happy habits and have quit the things that make them unhappy.  Sharon Swan said “If you want to be around me, you can either choose to be happy too, or follow the signs to the nearest exit!”


You’ll Never be Happy if You Say This

Posted on: October 25th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Never say certain words if you want to be happy

Never say certain words if you want to be happy

There is a science to being happy exactly like there is a science of getting rich. In the words of Wallace D. Wattles, who wrote The Science of Getting Rich,  “The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way.”  He was right and it is a statement that can also be said about being happy. The ability to be happy comes as a result of doing things a certain way.

One way to be happy is to have a happy attitude about where you are and what you are doing. A happy attitude is a result of happy thoughts, happy feelings and specific words that lead to happiness.  Delete the following thoughts and words from your vocabulary. These words will never result in a happy you.

I’m so frustrated that…

I’m worried that…

I’m stressed about…

I don’t want…

I should have, but….

I could have, but….

If only…..

These words will not result in a happy attitude because they invoke feelings of doubt, stress, worry, frustration, and that things aren’t as good as they should be. It’s easy to change your sad words into happy words once you are aware of the problem and observe what you think and say.

For example, rather than saying, “I really need to get out of debt, ” which brings up a sad feeling, you could say, “I love being debt free,” which would bring a happy feeling.

Sad feeling words are, “I’m so stressed about this situation.” Happy feeling words are, “One thing I can be happy about is that this situation is giving me a lot of valuable experience.”

Sad feeling words are, “I hate my job.” Happy feeling words are, “Something I love about my job is …”

Sad feeling words are, “I’m worried about…”   Happy feelings are, “I know this is going to turn out in an amazing way.”  

Happy words bring a happy attitude

Happy words bring a happy attitude

Start observing your words and when you find yourself uttering something that won’t result in a happy attitude, changing your words.

Your attitude always shows, especially when you are in the presence of children. Your words influence whether they are happy now and in the future. Keep a happy feeling in your attitude and words and you will not only have a happy child, your child will have a happy future.

Using happy words creates a happy attitude and a successful future. This is a great time to start the habit  of using only ‘happy words’.

Your Words Kill Children

Posted on: October 9th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Your words can leave scars on children

Your words can leave scars on children

Your words kill children. Does that seem shocking? Most people don’t realize the things they say to and around children have an effect on the rest of their lives.

A child is a sponge and their minds are fertile soil for the word seeds you drop into them. Even as babies before you think they understand, their subconscious mind is absorbing everything you say. They energetically relate to the feelings behind your words.

When you speak to a child, your words should be complementary. Your words should give them a great self image. Your words should be accompanied with patience and a smile. Your words are creating their future life.

When you speak words to children which indicate they are ‘bad’, ‘will never amount to anything’, are ‘stupid’, you are programming them to be those things. You are an authority figure and therefore, what you say is automatically believed. The rest of their lives, they live with what your words have planted in their little minds.

Speak words with patience, love, and understanding

Children make mistakes. You did too when you were a a child, in fact, you still do. Teach children with words of love, patience, and understanding.

If you speak words that let them know they are special and can become whatever they want in life, they will grow up believing those things. Most of all, speak words which let them know you love them, no matter what. Those are the words all children need to hear first thing in the morning, many times a day, and the last thing at night.

What a responsibility you have in how you use your words, not only when you speak to children, but the words you use around them. Their hearts, minds, and lives are being predicted by your words about debt, gossip, complaining, dishonesty, sarcasm, and words which will not be to their benefit. Your words can make them feel defeated, even at a young age. Your words also create their future lives when you give them confidence and good self esteem.

What you say is what you get – what you say is what THEY get! Watch your words. Remember, your words affect your life, as well as theirs. Is it possible to change the way you use your words around children? Of course, you are in charge of your words and have total control over them. If not for you, for your children, watch your words.


Your Attitude Always Shows

Posted on: January 12th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
What's in the inner attitude of your mind?

What's in the inner attitude of your mind?

William James, an American psychologist and philosopher, wrote, “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”

What a statement! When you change your attitude – you can change every aspect of your life. Do you REALLY believe that an attitude can do that? I do. Your inner attitude is so important that it is revealed constantly in your outer circumstances.

Look at your life? Where is there a problem? Then, you have an inner attitude problem about that part of your life. Look honestly at your attitude so you can see where the problem is. Once you do, you can decide to change it.
So many things in your in life depend on your attitude. The way we choose to see things makes all the difference. Charles Swindoll—author, educator, and Christian pastor—said: “Attitude, to me, is more important than the past, . . . than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. Attitude is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”

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