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Do You Know How to Forgive?

Posted on: August 8th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
I forgive

I forgive you!

There are several ways to forgive. However, the the first thing to keep in mind is to be the type of person who doesn’t go through life looking for those who are doing you wrong. There are people who constantly walk around feeling they don’t get a fair shake and that they are always being cheated in some way. Frequently these are people who have been raised with a sense of entitlement and feel that everyone owes them something. They have an overactive feeling of being gyped. These people live with a curse so if that is you, an attitude change would be your first step. Don’t live looking for someone you need to forgive.

When you go through life with a smile and expect to be happy. Research shows that smiling makes you happy. When you’re happy, you smile, and what is totally cool is that the opposite is true. When you put your face in a smiling position, you get happy. Why is this? It is because your body and emotions are connected. Amazingly, it was recently revealed that when people have Botox shots to eliminate their frown lines, they become happier. Not just because they don’t have face lines, but because your emotions respond to your body language and facial expressions

So, how do you forgive? Not a person on earth is free from being hurt so every person is confronted with this problem.

First step: When someone has done you wrong, before you can forgive, you must stop reliving it and going over and over it, again and again, in your mind. As long as you do this you haven’t made up your mind to forgive.

Step two: Here is where you get to make a choice. How you forgive a person depends how the other person is responding to what they did to harm you.

Forgive & forget

Forgive & forget

If the person has given you a sincere apology and is truly sorry, You must TOTALLY FORGIVE the person. In fact you are obligated to do this. When you totally forgive someone, you restore the relationship the way it was before and everything is as it was between you. This is also appropriate to totally forgive when someone has done something accidentally and is truly sorry by taking responsibility for what they have done.

If the person has not said they are sorry, does not take responsibility for their actions or blames their actions on something you did, then you cannot trust them again. If this is the case and you want to maintain the relationship, then forgive them but realize that things aren’t the same as they were before because you have a little suspicion about trusting them. Still, you can forgive them while holding the suspicion and realizing that things aren’t the same as they were before. You are wiser now.

You may have the fantasy that you are getting back at the other person when you don’t forgive them, but you are only hurting yourself because all good things are attracted to you through love and high vibrations.

If the person isn’t sorry, you definitely don’t maintain the relationship but forgive the person and let it go because of what it is going to do to you if you don’t. You release it even though you realize they hurt you and that things will never be the same between you. You fully acknowledge they did were bad and that the slate is not wiped clean. This could be a situation where a child was abused by a parent.

So -you choose:

  • Forgive and forget-keeps the relationship
  • Forgive but not forget-keeps the relationship even though you are wiser
  • Forgive and release the relationship.

Now you have choices, and remember, forgiveness is a gift you GIVE YOURSELF.

Are You Ready for a Serious Relationship?

Posted on: June 21st, 2011 by Glenda Feilen

serious relationshipOne of the best ways to improve your life and increase your happiness is to  attract a relationship. I think you’ll agree with me that almost everyone wants lasting love and a supportive relationship. The question to ask yourself when deciding whether you’re ready to have a serious relationship is whether are doing it for the right reasons.

Personally, I think that many people want a relationship simply because they are lonely and they just can’t stand to be alone. Well, if you don’t love yourself enough to be totally comfortable when you are alone with yourself, you are not ready! You aren’t looking for the other half of you. You are looking for another whole person who feels comfortable being alone, as well.

You are also not ready to embark on a new relationship if your life is a mess and you want someone to fix it. No one else can fix your life and if you add a relationship to your messed-up life, you’ll be adding another thing you’ll have to fix.

In the article, 6 Bad Reasons To Date Someone, you’ll find 6 reasons why you might not be ready to have a serious relationship.

To find the relationship you desire, you must first become a vibrational match to the qualities you seek – because what comes to you always matches you. When you join me in my upcoming webinar, EXPERIENCE HAPPY AND FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS, you will learn the simple, easy techniques to do this. Your love life is determined by the Law of Attraction the same as the rest of your life. Learn techniques to attract a passionate, intimate, supportive relationship.

How’s your Father Relationship?

Posted on: June 19th, 2011 by Glenda Feilen

All a girl needs from a father relationship is ACCEPTANCE. All a boy needs from a father relationship is an example on HOW TO BE AN HONORABLE MAN.

In the article, Your Dads’ Advice on Love, Money and Jobs, we read advice from different dads. One father gave the advice, “You gotta have it here” (pointing at his head), “here” (pointing to his bicep), “and here” (pointing to his heart).”

Another father relationship was benefited by a father who definitely knew about the Law of Attraction and creating the right habits. He said, “’Remember, before doing anything in life, if what you do/say cannot be printed on the headlines of every magazine on the planet, you probably shouldn’t do it.” You can incorporate good habits like this father suggested by investing $6.99 in my Product of the month, 4 Habits to Skyrocket Your Success.

According to the Pew study, recorded in 2 Different Dads, dads are more active in their children’s lives than in years past. Of course, living in the same household is a benefit to the father/child relationship. Unfortunately, dads living apart from their children has more than doubled” since 1960. Roughly 1 out of 4 dads live apart from their children.

When fathers who were surveyed were asked: “How good a job do you think you do as a father?” nearly 9 in 10 of those living with their children said they were good or very good dads. 49 percent of those living away from their kids answered the same.

Create empowering relationships with your father, your son and/or daughter, your co-workers, your neighbors, and your customers by using universal Law of Attraction principles when you join my 2-part webinar, EXPERIENCE HAPPY AND FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS. You can begin to use the things you learn the minute you hang up.

Oh – and a super-happy Father’s Day to you from me!