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Do You Know How to Forgive?

Posted on: August 8th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
I forgive

I forgive you!

There are several ways to forgive. However, the the first thing to keep in mind is to be the type of person who doesn’t go through life looking for those who are doing you wrong. There are people who constantly walk around feeling they don’t get a fair shake and that they are always being cheated in some way. Frequently these are people who have been raised with a sense of entitlement and feel that everyone owes them something. They have an overactive feeling of being gyped. These people live with a curse so if that is you, an attitude change would be your first step. Don’t live looking for someone you need to forgive.

When you go through life with a smile and expect to be happy. Research shows that smiling makes you happy. When you’re happy, you smile, and what is totally cool is that the opposite is true. When you put your face in a smiling position, you get happy. Why is this? It is because your body and emotions are connected. Amazingly, it was recently revealed that when people have Botox shots to eliminate their frown lines, they become happier. Not just because they don’t have face lines, but because your emotions respond to your body language and facial expressions

So, how do you forgive? Not a person on earth is free from being hurt so every person is confronted with this problem.

First step: When someone has done you wrong, before you can forgive, you must stop reliving it and going over and over it, again and again, in your mind. As long as you do this you haven’t made up your mind to forgive.

Step two: Here is where you get to make a choice. How you forgive a person depends how the other person is responding to what they did to harm you.

Forgive & forget

Forgive & forget

If the person has given you a sincere apology and is truly sorry, You must TOTALLY FORGIVE the person. In fact you are obligated to do this. When you totally forgive someone, you restore the relationship the way it was before and everything is as it was between you. This is also appropriate to totally forgive when someone has done something accidentally and is truly sorry by taking responsibility for what they have done.

If the person has not said they are sorry, does not take responsibility for their actions or blames their actions on something you did, then you cannot trust them again. If this is the case and you want to maintain the relationship, then forgive them but realize that things aren’t the same as they were before because you have a little suspicion about trusting them. Still, you can forgive them while holding the suspicion and realizing that things aren’t the same as they were before. You are wiser now.

You may have the fantasy that you are getting back at the other person when you don’t forgive them, but you are only hurting yourself because all good things are attracted to you through love and high vibrations.

If the person isn’t sorry, you definitely don’t maintain the relationship but forgive the person and let it go because of what it is going to do to you if you don’t. You release it even though you realize they hurt you and that things will never be the same between you. You fully acknowledge they did were bad and that the slate is not wiped clean. This could be a situation where a child was abused by a parent.

So -you choose:

  • Forgive and forget-keeps the relationship
  • Forgive but not forget-keeps the relationship even though you are wiser
  • Forgive and release the relationship.

Now you have choices, and remember, forgiveness is a gift you GIVE YOURSELF.

Fix Any Problem

Posted on: October 1st, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Got a problem. You can fix it.

Got a problem. You can fix it.

Do you have a problem? Everyone has some kind of a problem, whether it’s with a relationship, finances, or even with health.

I’m going to give you an easy way to ‘get over’ your problem mentally and emotionally so you are ready to take action on your problem and fix it.

1. Identify your problem. In fact, write it down so you really understand what it is.

2. Okay, now you are in touch with your problem, identify the way you feel when you think about it. Is it sad, hopeless, fearful, frustrated, fearful, or some other uncomfortable feeling?

3. You are not feeling so good right now because your problem has you wallowing in a negative feeling. So…..think hard. If you didn’t have that problem and it were out of your life, what feeling would you have? Without that problem, would you feel happy, relieved, relaxed, confident, or some other wonderful feeling? Cross out the word representing the old feeling and write down the new feeling. Imagine your problem is already over and feel it….and feel it more intensely.

How would you feel without the problem?

How would you feel without the problem?

Your problem will be over, and the sooner you actually associate that good feeling with your problem, the sooner it will be over. When you get into the new feeling that you want to feel, the needed action to fix the problem will come into your mind. When you get realize that action, your new attitude will give you the motivation to take that action.

To take control over any problem, you must have the right mind set. When you get into the feeling of the problem being fixed already, with that new attitude your problem will soon be over.

By learning this simple little trick to fix your problem you are learning something that will set yourself up to be happy.

Make Every Relationship Better

Posted on: October 20th, 2011 by Glenda Feilen
Gratitude feelings improve relationship

Gratitude feelings improves a relationship

Can you can make your relationship better? No matter who you are, you can always make ANY relationship better! It’s easy and there is relationship research to prove it.

It has everything to do with the way you express gratitude. Gratitude is a vibrational frequency of love which comes from the heart and soul. Showing gratitude is one of the most important elements in any successful relationship. Studies indicate that gratitude contributes to a satisfying long-term marriage.

  • A 2005 study found that expressing gratitude to your partner was related to a higher marital satisfaction. Partners who began to express gratitude in their relationship for 3 weeks showed a great improvement in their relationship. John Gottman’s relationship research reveals that for a marriage to survive, the ratio of positive words and actions to negative words and actions in a given relationship has to be at least five positive to one negative. The fact is, ANY relationship, parental, social, intimate, or a co-worker relationship can be improved by using gratitude.

3 Ways to express gratitude in your relationship:
* Go the extra mile in your thoughts and think about what you appreciate about your partner and your relationship.
* Do something you wouldn’t normally do to express gratitude either verbally or in writing.
* Do some small and simple appreciative actions.

What Energy Are You Projecting? Most people don’t realize the very energy (the feeling) behind the words you speak to another person-is the actual relationship vibration you have with that person. You can change any relationship by simply changing the energy between you and another person. What energy are you putting out when you communicate to others? Think about a person with whom you have a less than optimum relationship. Now think about the energy, the feeling you usually have, when you speak to that person. If you are being honest, you will easily see that the relationship between the two of you is an extension of the feeling behind your words and actions to them.

I'm grateful for you and our relationship

I'm grateful for you and our relationship

Now think about someone you adore and with whom you have a fulfilling relationship. How do you feel right before, or at the same time you utter your words to that person? Your energy output is quite different from your other relationship, isn’t it.

Pick a relationship to improve and have fun creating a new habit. Use the Law of Attraction to improve your relationship. We get in a habit of sending the same energy vibrations, having the same feelings when we speak to certain people, no matter what the subject. If you want to change a relationship, change your vibes when you speak to them. Of course you can! You are in control of your words and your feelings.

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