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Anxiety Gone with the Law of Attraction

Posted on: September 11th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen

This question was asked of me by a client about anxiety:

confused girlPlease help me! I go to bed every night with positive feelings, feeling good about myself, etc….but every morning I wake up with anxiety! It’s usually anxiety about a variety of issues, and I have no idea where the anxiety is coming from. I know we are supposed to start our day with positive feelings, emotions, and thoughts, so I feel like I am hitting a road block when I start my day “on the wrong foot with all this anxiety.” Has anyone else experienced this? Can anyone give me some helpful advice? When I feel anxiety, I usually begin reading one of my LOA books to get me more centered, and I think of things that I am grateful for. Sometimes this works, other times it takes me awhile to get centered again. This can mean that I am anxious/sad/unhappy until the end of the day. I’m having a hard time manifesting what I want because of this anxiety problem. Any advice? Did this happen to anyone else as they were starting out with LOA? Thanks!

Actually, this is very common. I have many clients who have found this to be a problem. They look at their day and are overwhelmed and just like you, filled with anxiety. It is easily corrected. Reading a book is fine, but it is a very slow process to get you into high vibrational feelings to replace the low vibrational anxiety ones you have upon waking. First of all, you want to create the habit upon waking of feeling and even naming the things you have in your life that you for which you feel gratitude. Gratitude is a high vibrational feeling close to joy. Next, you want to connect with your Source (God, the Universe, a High Power) from which all energy, love and high vibrations flow into you. Once you get the hang of this, you can do it in about 1-2 minutes; however it will take you a little longer at first.

See and feel the love coming in in the form of light from above your head flowing into your crown and spreading throughout your body. It goes to your eyes so you see love in all things throughout the day, and your ears so that you hear the love in all things, and then your mouth o that as your speak only love energy in all your transactions throughout the day…..and so on. The energy will do as you direct it. Allow the light to flow throughout your whole body and you WILL FEEL a difference. Now, take a moment and visualize what you want to happen in your day in the most positive, loving way and go forward with that energy. Do not think of the things that bring you anxiety. Think only of what you want because what you focus on expands. If you lose this feeling of being connected to your energy Source during the day, it is easy to connect once again now you know how. Enjoy! Life can change for forever with this one tiny habit and anxiety gone forever because no matter what time of the day it is, this  will work.

A friend of mine uses this method to help her get out of a funk fast – take a few minutes and think of 10 things (ANY 10 things) you love about your life:

Gratitude therapy - a friend's answer to anxiety

Gratitude therapy – a friend’s answer to anxiety

How to Live Happy

Posted on: July 5th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
Be happy - be grateful

Be happy – live the Law of Increase

Do you know this secret about how to live a prosperous, happy life? Did you know this secret will help you turn your life around?

Take a look at your life – do you feel happy every day? Or, do you often find yourself in a funk, or surrounded by negativity?

You can wake up and have an amazing day every single day of your life. You might wonder how to be happy, how to be prosperous, or how to have better health and relationships. I will tell you this secret – it starts with a choice. Choose to live the Law of Increase.

Watch this video to learn more about the Law of Increase:

When you live the Law of Increase, you give more, you are more thankful, and you receive more!

Live happy!

The Mind Can Make a Heaven out of Hell or a Hell out of Heaven

Posted on: March 12th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
Your mind determines your reality

Your mind determines your reality

Milton said it…”The Mind can Make a Heaven out of Hell or a Hell out of Heaven”. I guess Milton had a good understanding of the Law of Attraction as well as the mind.

Recently I was told of an incident that proves just this. A woman and her young 10 year old daughter were sitting on the mother’s friend’s front porch. As they were chatting, a neighbor came to join the group. When she saw the girl she said to her, “What beautiful hair you have!” Then she momentarily touched the girl’s hair to feel how soft and silky her hair was.

The next time the mother and her friend were together, the girl’s mother asked her friend why she hadn’t chastised the neighbor for touching her daughter’s hair. She said it was obvious she was checking for extensions or some type of fake hair. The friend was surprised to hear this and thought it was totally absurd and said it would have never entered her mind.

Ahhh, that’s the secret! The mother took a kind gesture of a woman giving a compliment and her mind turned it into something to complain about; however in the friend’s mind, seeing the neighbor’s actions as a negative wasn’t even an option.

Like it or not, you create everything with your mind. Your mind controls your feelings. Your feelings send messages to your subconscious mind, which in turn creates your life.

Related: Thoughts are Habits in Your Mind

You are the one who determines exactly what kind of relationships you have with everyone in your life based on the thoughts in your mind. You and your mind sends mental messages about money and therefore, determine how much money comes into your life. The thoughts you put into your mind have a great effect on every cell in your body and determine your health.

Everything in the world is energy. Your mind thinks thoughts which are energy and send out energetic vibrations which come back to you as things, people, and situations in your life.

Look at your life to see where your mind is sending out positive thought messages and in which areas you need to change your mind. Positive thoughts in your mind create a positive world. Is there any area of your life that isn’t a positive in your personal world? If so, you know what to do. Change your mind. It’s your mind and you are in charge of it.

You Are Your Biggest Love on Valentine’s Day!

Posted on: February 12th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
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The Love Secret

I think we should call Valentine’s day…self love day. What? Am I crazy? No way. You must love yourself even if you are in a relationship. You must love yourself for someone else to love you. You must love yourself to feel lovable and worthy of love. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to love yourself.

When you love yourself, you are sending out love vibrations. The more you show love to yourself, the more the Law of Attraction will attract love to you.

It’s not your duty to make romance happen. It is your duty to feel what you want and then let it happen. Law of Attraction will make it happen. You attract what you are, so be the thing you desire.If you love yourself you will nurture yourself and give yourself gifts. How do you nurture yourself?

Do you speak to yourself with love?
Do you give yourself flowers?
Do you take time to do something you love every day?
Do you give yourself the luxury of a massage?
Do you take time to just be with yourself every day?
or
Do you indulge in self-pity?
Do you criticize yourself?
Do you keep your best smelling candles to burn when someone comes?
Do you say yes to someone even when it’s something that isn’t the best for you?
Do you push yourself too hard instead of giving yourself a break?

Even if you don’t already have the love of your life, you need to love you! Relationships may come and go but you are here to stay. When you indulge in self-love, the Law of Attraction will return it to you. How you treat yourself is how the universe will respond energetically.

How the Law of Attraction Can Improve Your Life

Posted on: January 14th, 2013 by Glenda Feilen
With The Law of Attraction You can change unhappy to happy in a few seconds

With The Law of Attraction you can change unhappy to happy in a few seconds

How can Law of Attraction help your life? It’s simple. It’s such a simple little secret that everyone should know it. The Law of Attraction  works like this..everything you do, say, think, or feel invites something into your life. That’s right.

When you have a little thought, because of the Law of Attraction, you are sending out a little invisible energy message which boomerangs something back into your life. The Law of Attraction brings in that very thing you thought about or something on that same wave length. The first time you think of something, you send out little energy seeds. the next time that energy formation becomes stronger and stronger and even more magnetic.

“When you think a little thought about  something you want, because of the Law of Attraction, that thought grows larger and larger, and more and more powerful.”

The Law of Attraction also works against you. When you have a thought of something you don’t want,  you are also inviting that thing into your life. So, how can you use the Law of Attraction to improve your life? Keep your thoughts positive.Think only of the things you want, therefore you’ll have a happier life because the the Law of Attraction will bring you the things you want.

The Law of Attraction automatically energetically attracts what you send out, whether it’s good for you or bad. The secret about the Law of Attraction is that you invite everything into your life, so if you want to be happy and successful life, your job is to be careful of what you are inviting. Now you know how to change unhappy to happy.  The Law of Attraction will take care of you if you take care of your thoughts, words, and feelings.

Learn exactly how to make this easy Law of Attraction change by using the simple, easy step in the WOW System. The WOW System is the most complete, ultimate guide to the Law of Attraction. Get ready to have a WOW life when you get the WOW System.

Use These Words to be Happy

Posted on: November 15th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen

 

You believe the words you tell yourselfYou belive the words you tell yourself

You believe the words you tell yourself

The words you use can make a difference in whether you are happy or not The words you use can determine whether you are successful or not.

Your words determine your mindset…or you might think your mindset determines your words. Either way, when you say something, you believe what you say to yourself and your feelings instantly respond to your words.

To be happy and successful, find a time during the day to say the words, “I am important.”

Speak the words, “I am loveable.”

How about the words, “I deserve the best.”

“I am strong. I can do this, ” may be the exact words you need to hear.

Speak and think the words, “I am worthy of great things. My best is yet to come.”

You words determine your feelings

You words determine your feelings

It is said that, “A blow with a word strikes deeper than a blow with a sword.” This is as true for yourself as it is for others. When you speak words that demean yourself, it is like a dreadful blow that can hurt for your whole life.

Related: How Good Words Create Good Things

When you speak hopeful, positive words, you are filled with a powerful sense of optimism. It creates a feeling that nothing can stop you. What you say is what you feel…and what you feel determines the you energy radiates outward which is returned to you by the universe. Words make a huge difference in your life. Start right now to listen to your words and consciously say the things that will make you a happier and more successful person.

Be Happy Anyway!

Posted on: November 7th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen

 

Keep your thoughts above the happy line

Being Happy is up to you!

Do you want to be happy? Sounds like a silly question, but not really.

Abraham Lincoln said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Believe it or not, many folks make up their minds not to be happy.

Why would anyone not want to feel happy? When people are unhappy, they have something to complain about. When they aren’t happy, they can be a victims and blame someone else for their problems. When people aren’t happy, it’s their way of opting out of being in charge of their own lives.

No one else is responsible for your life or for the way you feel. You are totally in control of whether your thoughts and feelings are happy or unhappy. Perhaps someone else did or said something that has triggered a negative emotional response in you. It’s up to you to choose whether to stay with that negative feeling or change it to a happy one.

If you choose not to be happy because of someone else, it’s pretty ridiculous. They probably said or did something only once, however when you replay it in your mind you let it hurt you over and over again. When you’re feeling sad or mad, remember you chose to react that way so you are responsible for how you are feeling. The only person who gets hurt by focusing on the negative is you.

Things and people do not make you happy or unhappy. You make yourself happy or unhappy. You have to decide to be happy no matter what happens. Things don’t have to be perfect for you to be happy. If you wait until things are perfect to be happy, you will never be happy because things will never stay perfect. Life is full of constant change.

If you find yourself not being happy, just say, “Oops,” and change your thoughts. Become happy by changing your thoughts to something that does make you happy. Choose something uplifting and you will instantly feel uplifted. Don’t be mad at your self for feeling negative because that is another reason you’ll have not to be happy. Set yourself up to be happy by deciding to make a sharp u turn in your emotions. You can go from down to up simply by putting a new picture in your mind – one that makes you happy. Anyone can do it. Anyone can choose to be happy. Once you’ve made the ‘happy-choice’, the rest is easy.

 

 


The Most Important Factor in Marriage

Posted on: November 5th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen

 

Gratitude is the number one thing that creates a happy marriage

Gratitude is the number one thing that creates a happy marriage

It may surprise you that gratitude is important in a successful marriage. In fact, gratitude is the most important factor to a satisfying, long-term marriage.

A 2005 study (Schramm, Marshal and Harris) found that higher satisfaction in marriage occurs when the parties actually express gratitude to their mate. Appreciation was listed as one of the most important factors to a satisfying long-term marriage.

Newlyweds also viewed partners who expressed gratitude in a more loving way.

The partners who expressed gratitude in their relationship regularly for 3 weeks actually saw their marriage become stronger.

How does gratitude affect a relationship? It was found in a study by Lambert and Fincham in 2011, that when you express appreciation for something about your partner, it gives your partner a more positive view of you. It also helps the marriage partners to feel more invested in a long term relationship, as well as both partners in the marriage being able to voice concerns in the relationship.

How can you express gratitude in your marriage?

  • Help your marriage by looking for things you like about your partner and then sharing it
  • Help your marriage by expressing gratitude in a way you wouldn’t normally do so, such as leaving a note
  • Help your marriage by doing little things that you normally wouldn’t, such as making something special that you know will be appreciated

Now you know the number one love secret to improve your marriage, get going on your new gratitude habit today. Create the best marriage you can have by incorporating tiny little things daily.

You Can’t be Happy With These 3 Cs

Posted on: November 1st, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Be happy without the 3 Cs

Be happy without the 3 Cs

Everyone wants to be happy but not everyone knows how to be happy. In order to be happy you must have a mindset that encourages happiness. To do this, you have to be a quitter. You must quite 3 things.  Being happy requires you to quit Criticizing, Controlling, and fear of Changing.

 When you criticize anyone or anything, you have determined what’s wrong with some one or something rather than what’s right. You are looking at the negative instead of the positive of a person or situation. Criticism of yourself is one of the worst things you can do. No one can be happy when they find fault with themselves. People who criticize aren’t happy because this habit brings lack, rather than prosperity,  into your life. In order to be happy, you have to kick out toxic thoughts.

To be happy, you must also quit exerting control over anyone or anything. When you try to control something, it actually controls you because of the effort it takes. The fact is, you can’t actually control anything, therefore being happy eludes you because even with all your controlling effort, things don’t always work out as you wish. Happy people are flexible, they let things flow, and take see opportunities in everything that happens. Controlling is a contracting energy, where as allowing is expanding energy.

Be happy for change

Be happy for change

You will only be happy when you recognize that change is a good thing. Change is happening constantly and change is progress. Happy people aren’t afraid of change. Happy people find change exciting, even though they know great changes are usually preceded by chaos. In the end, they know that the change is worth it. Happy people do not worry about or fear change; instead they anticipate it. Be happy about what is changing and you’ll find opportunities in it.

Happy people hang with other happy people because they also have happy habits and have quit the things that make them unhappy.  Sharon Swan said “If you want to be around me, you can either choose to be happy too, or follow the signs to the nearest exit!”


You’ll Never be Happy if You Say This

Posted on: October 25th, 2012 by Glenda Feilen
Never say certain words if you want to be happy

Never say certain words if you want to be happy

There is a science to being happy exactly like there is a science of getting rich. In the words of Wallace D. Wattles, who wrote The Science of Getting Rich,  “The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way.”  He was right and it is a statement that can also be said about being happy. The ability to be happy comes as a result of doing things a certain way.

One way to be happy is to have a happy attitude about where you are and what you are doing. A happy attitude is a result of happy thoughts, happy feelings and specific words that lead to happiness.  Delete the following thoughts and words from your vocabulary. These words will never result in a happy you.

I’m so frustrated that…

I’m worried that…

I’m stressed about…

I don’t want…

I should have, but….

I could have, but….

If only…..

These words will not result in a happy attitude because they invoke feelings of doubt, stress, worry, frustration, and that things aren’t as good as they should be. It’s easy to change your sad words into happy words once you are aware of the problem and observe what you think and say.

For example, rather than saying, “I really need to get out of debt, ” which brings up a sad feeling, you could say, “I love being debt free,” which would bring a happy feeling.

Sad feeling words are, “I’m so stressed about this situation.” Happy feeling words are, “One thing I can be happy about is that this situation is giving me a lot of valuable experience.”

Sad feeling words are, “I hate my job.” Happy feeling words are, “Something I love about my job is …”

Sad feeling words are, “I’m worried about…”   Happy feelings are, “I know this is going to turn out in an amazing way.”  

Happy words bring a happy attitude

Happy words bring a happy attitude

Start observing your words and when you find yourself uttering something that won’t result in a happy attitude, changing your words.

Your attitude always shows, especially when you are in the presence of children. Your words influence whether they are happy now and in the future. Keep a happy feeling in your attitude and words and you will not only have a happy child, your child will have a happy future.

Using happy words creates a happy attitude and a successful future. This is a great time to start the habit  of using only ‘happy words’.